I’ve found myself saying “That’s not fair!” numerous times this month. It’s a phrase that’s so easy to just throw out whenever I felt that privileges were being taken away from me. In my case, it was the one month suspension of Uber.
But we won’t be talking about that.
We’re talking about the phrase “That’s not fair!”.
Now I can’t even remember when I started saying this. Was it in high school when we had to have make up classes when it wasn’t our fault classes were cancelled in the first place? Or could it be traced back to my childhood years when I had to go home even if my neighborhood friends were still playing outside.
I didn’t see anything wrong at the time. I just wanted things to be fair! Little did I know, this phrase revealed so much about how entitled I was. I may as well have said God was keeping blessings from me. Ugh, heart check please?!
I came across this article which talked about how we should stop kids from saying this phrase and I was inspired to share these points with you:
1. You’re right, that’s not fair!
It’s not fair that I’m here complaining about being inconvenienced by Uber’s suspension when I know people who endure the hard, daily commute because it’s cheaper and they cannot afford using other means of transportation. It’s not fair that I get to share my thoughts with you when there are those crying for their voices to be heard.
Some may have pointed at me before saying, “That’s not fair!”, and, truth is, they have a much better case.
2. You really don’t want life to be fair.
We all have our measures of what is right and what is wrong but the problem is we’re human and not God. God is the one who truly holds the scale and the Bible tells us that He has been nothing but gracious towards us.
Because of His mercy, we do not receive His judgment. Instead, we receive His grace. God is fair but He is also just and merciful.
You know what’s unfair though? That Jesus would be the one to go down from heaven to receive the ultimate punishment for our sins just so we could have a restored relationship with God.
3. A heart of ingratitude and entitlement is evidence of a deeper problem with God.
This struck me the most. Whenever we feel entitled, it’s as if we’re telling God that we don’t trust Him to be our Father who can take care of our needs, love us and care for us. Not only that, our ingratitude shows that we think we know better than God about what is good for us.
Oh how terrible I felt! Every time I said “That’s not fair!”, I was telling God that He hasn’t done things as evenly as I would. Can you believe me? A sinful human, claiming to know more than our Almighty Father!
So what’s the solution?
Remember the Gospel. We have to remind ourselves that Jesus IS enough. God provided us with all that we need. Jesus dying on that cross for our sins is the greatest gift we could ever receive. Anything else we ask for pales in comparison.
Once we truly understand the Gospel, we begin to develop a healthier sense of justice. Instead of looking at what we don’t have, we start looking at others who are suffering and we get involved in fighting the injustice around us. By giving up our own entitlement for the sake of others, we become a small light that attracts those to the Kingdom of God.
Do you have any stories of entitlement? Feel free to share them with me!