5 Lessons from the Strong, God-Dependent Women in my Life

Strong, God-dependent Women

Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.” (Prov 13:20 NIV)

I’m privileged to have such beautiful and strong, God-dependent women in my life. You may have heard the saying, “Tell me who your friends are, and I’ll tell you who you are.” Whether we like it or not, the people we surround ourselves with can influence us. They help shape our thoughts, habits, and ideas.
These girls have taught me what it means to be a strong, God-dependent woman and I hope to share some of these with you.


Strong, God-dependent women…

are not perfect. 

Let’s get this straight: we are all imperfect people loved by a perfect God. I always thought being a strong, independent woman was ideal but these ladies taught me otherwise. Sure, we are capable of a lot of things but God is who we rely on the most. I’m very grateful to have spiritual leaders like Nina, Angel and Jew who are very intentional in leading and guiding us. They are also quick to call us out whenever they feel like someone is going out of line but they do so with patience and grace.

… value relationships. 

With every milestone, each of us became aware of the people who have helped us along the way. It is important to cherish and honor these relationships in the best way possible. I can’t count the number of times Sofie would surprise me with a random trinkets. They may not mean much to other people but seeing as my love language is receiving gifts, I relish it! Tin is also great at showing how much she values the people around her. She’s always ready to go to wherever you are when you need her or help you out with a task. I truly cherish their hearts for being so open and understanding.

…know when to say “NO”. 

As Christians, we are called to always pursue excellence. However, most of the time we confuse being busy with being productive. Sometimes we spread ourselves too thin and it’s not beneficial to any party. I’ve always admired this about B. Her discipline in commitments (and finances) is something I hope to have. She also taught me that it’s never okay to settle. No matter how small the task is, if there’s a chance to be excellent, don’t just settle for good.

… know that there is strength in restraint. 

Out of all of us, I think Bea demonstrates this best. Her gentle and quiet spirit keeps our roaring hormones at bay. She would never yell but was whenever she spoke, there was a firmness that really makes you listen.

have fun. 

We’re not serious all the time and Camille is the perfect example of this. She loves making people laugh and is not afraid of being silly. Indeed, when your confidence is in the Lord, you’re not going to care what people think!

My prayer

My prayer, dear reader, is that you be able to surround yourself with great people who love the Lord. I pray that you be patient and kind as even friendships need work. It’s not going to be easy, personalities will clash, but as iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another (Prov 27:17).


This post is dedicated to the Angels, Xs, and Ninjas of my life. We’ve been serving in the dance ministry for years. We’ve formed bonds and shared many treasured memories. I cherish each laughter, tear, heartbreak, and heartbeat shared with you. May we continue to grow more in love with the Lord as we grow closer to each other. To my strong, God-dependent women, loved, you are by me. Always. <3